Red Flags of Dating

There is a difference between love, like and lust. Indeed, confusing these three states is usually what lifts those red flags and waves them! But dating is a tough world (if you're looking for love) because we're so unforgiving with each other at the beginning. It seems to me that love only starts to grow when we begin to forgive our partners for being themselves, and not what we dream them up to be.

The Problem with You...

I'm a fan of Woody Allen. In "Deconstructing Harry" (1997) there's a nice scene when a couple is in a fight and the man aggressively reproaches his girlfriend: "Do you know what the problem with you is? You love too much! You love too easily!" I'm not sure if I can explain why this is so funny to me (especially out of context), but I like the dysfunctional humor. Everyone dreams of being loved, and then six months (or six years) after being in a relationship, you find yourself yelling at your partner that their problem is that they love you too much!

Yes, this is the paradox of love: being alone vs. being together. Both conditions somehow leave us feeling unsatisfied. In any case, both are stereotypes, because we're all human beings and, thus, all in the same boat.